First published in 2001 as a sequel to the original Topping Book, this edition reimagines what it means to take the dominant role in BDSM and power exchange. Written by Dossie Easton (co-author of The Ethical Slut), it’s playful yet grounded, focused not on control for its own sake but on creating consent-driven, collaborative, and deeply pleasurable encounters.

What It’s About

Easton takes topping out of the realm of stereotype and into the realm of skill and ethics:

• The psychology of topping. Why people are drawn to dominance, and how to explore it without falling into abusive dynamics.

• Communication and negotiation. How to discuss limits, fantasies, and desires so everyone feels safe and seen.

• Body language and energy. Reading your partner, noticing subtle shifts, and adjusting in real time.

• Aftercare and responsibility. Why topping doesn’t end when the scene does — and how to hold space for the person you’re playing with.

• Personal stories. Anecdotes from Easton’s own life and the community that bring theory into lived practice.

Strengths

• Warm, witty, and human — Easton makes topping approachable.

• Balances theory and lived experience.

• Frames dominance as service and care, not entitlement.

Weaknesses

• Cultural references show its age in places.

• Less structured than newer manuals — more philosophy than step-by-step instruction.

Why It Still Matters

The New Topping Book is a gentle reminder that dominance is not about being in charge but about co-creating experiences of trust and intensity. For new tops, it’s an encouraging invitation. For veterans, it’s a chance to reflect on the deeper meaning behind their play. It remains a cornerstone of kink literature because it treats topping as both art and relationship.