I’m passionate about promoting consent as the foundation for trust, safety, and understanding in relationships. With years of experience navigating kink, BDSM, and ENM (ethical non-monogamy), I offer practical insights and tools to help people explore these complex and rewarding spaces with confidence, clarity, and respect.

As an educator across multiple disciplines—including Consent Training, Martial Arts, Women’s Self-Defense, Climbing, Advanced Motorcycle Training, and Running—and a graduate of the SexTech School, I bring a blend of teaching experience, lived insight, and real-world application to the work I do. My focus is on making these topics accessible, grounded, and genuinely empowering.

Through articles, resources, and workshops, I share strategies for improving communication, navigating consent, and building emotional awareness. I’m also developing tools including quizzes, matchmaking systems, and therapist-matching resources, alongside deep, practical guides on sexual health, STI testing, and relationship dynamics.

I’m currently collaborating with some of NYC’s leading therapists and organizations, with more details coming soon.

If you’re interested in collaborating, contributing, or working together, I’d love to connect. You can reach me at gareth@consentculture.community.

I don’t just teach communication and consent. I live it.

That includes how I show up around sexual health, vulnerability, and the things many people are taught to hide.

At the start of any intimate connection, I disclose openly. That includes my HSV-2 status and that I experience vascular-related erectile dysfunction.

That’s not something I say quietly or reluctantly. It’s something I share clearly, early, and without shame.

Because this is what I believe:

If we want honesty in our relationships, we have to be willing to model it in the places that feel most vulnerable.

I actively manage both. I take antiviral medication (valacyclovir), and I use ED medications like sildenafil or tadalafil when needed. I’ll often leave these with partners so they’re accessible, and I’ll bring them to events or play spaces so that I’m prepared and others feel supported if they need them too.

This isn’t about over-disclosure. It’s about normalizing conversations that should never have been stigmatized in the first place.

Because the reality is:

• Roughly 1 in 6 people have genital herpes (HSV-2 or HSV-1 genitally)
• Around 30–50% of men experience some form of erectile dysfunction at some point in their lives

These are not edge cases. These are normal human experiences that we’ve been taught to hide.

And when we hide them, we create shame. We create silence. We create environments where people feel unsafe telling the truth.

So I choose something different.

I choose to be open. I choose to be clear. I choose to create spaces where someone else can say, “Me too,” without fear.

And there’s something else that matters here:

Not remembering being told and not being told are not the same thing.

When people don’t feel safe, they don’t always repeat themselves. They soften. They avoid. They assume it didn’t land. Or they decide it’s not worth saying again.

That’s why how we respond matters so much.

If we want honesty, we have to make it safe the first time.

If you want to go deeper into how to have these conversations in a grounded, stigma-free way, start with STI Testing, Incubation Periods, and Risk Awareness.