I first met Jessica (aka Vanillacooldance) through the Sextech School, where her humor, creativity, and sharp insights into sexuality immediately stood out. Since then, I’ve watched her work continue to inspire, challenge, and delight people across the sex-positive community.
Through her playful, incisive, and sometimes wickedly funny toons, she has built a community centered on shamelessness, desire, and sexual honesty. Her tagline says:
✨ “Creating a shameless world one toon at a time.”
The Art of Shamelessness
Shame is one of the deepest barriers to honest sexual expression. What Vanillacooldance does brilliantly is disarm shame with humor. A single cartoon can hold up a mirror to our desires, awkward moments, or cultural double standards—and instead of making us shrink, it makes us laugh and lean in.
In doing so, her work becomes more than art. It’s consent education, sex positivity, and community-building disguised as comics.
Where to Find Her Work
- 📸 Follow her daily creations on Instagram: @vanillacooldance
- 📰 Read her essays and reflections on Substack: vanillacooldance.substack.com
- 🌐 Explore everything in one place: Beacons Hub
Tools & Resources She Offers
Beyond her art, Vanillacooldance has created a series of fun, practical, and sometimes spicy tools to help people talk about and explore their desires:
- 🛠️ “Tell Me What You Want in Bed” Toolkit — a 3-step journey to build confidence and speak your desires ($54)
- 📋 The Pleasure Menu — 250+ desires, fantasies & spicy ideas to sort into Fck Yes, Curious, or Hard No* ($27)
- 🔥 Dirty Talk Mini Guide — 40+ dangerously hot phrases to boost connection & heat ($7)
Shameless Merch
If you want to carry her message into the world (literally on your body), check out her store:
- 🌈 Pride Shirt: “You do you or whoever the f🌈ck you want”
- 🎨 Prints of her iconic cartoons
- 👑 The famous True King sticker pack
- 🌈 You Do You temporary tattoos
Why She Belongs Here
Consent Culture is about more than rules or guidelines—it’s about joy, humor, and the courage to show up as yourself. Vanillacooldance embodies that spirit. Her work has sparked countless conversations about sex, shame, and self-expression, all while making people laugh along the way.
If you’re looking for a little more shamelessness (and laughter) in your life, go follow her, read her, and support her work. The sex-positive movement is stronger with artists like her leading the way.
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About the Author: Gareth Redfern-Shaw
