Shared Emotional Labor Agreements are intentional arrangements between partners in a relationship that outline how emotional responsibilities and support will be shared and managed. This concept is particularly important in intimate relationships, including those involving polyamory and ethical non-monogamy (ENM), where multiple partners may have various emotional needs and expectations.

At a basic level, Shared Emotional Labor refers to the emotional effort required to maintain the dynamics of a relationship. This can include tasks such as providing emotional support, listening actively, managing conflicts, and recognizing and responding to each partner’s emotional states. An Agreement in this context signifies a mutual understanding or contract that clarifies each partner’s roles and contributions regarding these emotional tasks.

For example, in a polyamorous relationship, one partner may agree to take on the primary responsibility for checking in emotionally with another partner, while another partner might focus on conflict resolution or providing comfort during stressful times. By explicitly defining these roles through a Shared Emotional Labor Agreement, partners can minimize misunderstandings, ensure that emotional needs are met, and promote a healthier relational dynamic.

These agreements can be revisited and revised as relationships evolve, ensuring that they remain relevant to the partners’ changing needs and circumstances. Such clarity can enhance communication and foster a deeper sense of connection and responsibility among partners.