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Smothering refers to a form of physical and psychological sensation play often found within BDSM and kink communities, where one partner restricts the breathing or movement of another partner, typically in a consensual context. This activity can involve various methods, including using pillows, blankets, or the body weight of one partner to create a feeling of pressure and constriction.

In a smothering scenario, it is vital that both partners engage in clear and open communication about boundaries, limits, and safe words prior to the activity. Consent is a cornerstone of smothering, as participants must agree on what is acceptable and what is not.

The experience can elicit a variety of emotional and physical responses, including a sense of vulnerability, helplessness, or heightened arousal, depending on the dynamics of the relationship and the specific interests of the individuals involved.

As with any BDSM or kink activity, safety protocols are essential. Establishing a safe word or signal allows participants to communicate their comfort levels and ensures that the activity can be stopped immediately if necessary. Additionally, a thorough understanding of the risks associated with smothering, such as asphyxia or panic, is crucial for a safe and enjoyable experience.

Smothering

Smothering refers to a form of behavior in relationships where one partner becomes excessively dependent on the other, often leading to feelings of being overwhelmed, suffocated, or controlled. This behavior can manifest in various ways, such as constant monitoring of the other person's activities, frequent communication, and a lack of personal boundaries.


Excessive smothering behavior can result in the loss of individual autonomy and can be detrimental to the health of the relationship. It can lead to feelings of resentment, frustration, and a sense of being trapped for the partner on the receiving end. Setting clear boundaries, open communication, and encouraging independence are essential in addressing smothering behavior and fostering a healthy and balanced relationship.

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About the Author: Gareth Redfern-Shaw

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Gareth is the founder of Consent Culture, a platform focused on consent, kink, ethical non-monogamy, relationship dynamics, and the work of creating safer spaces. His work emphasizes meaningful, judgment-free conversations around communication, harm reduction, and accountability in practice, not just in name. Through Consent Culture, he aims to inspire curiosity, build trust, and support a safer, more connected world.

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